I’ve had two tragic deaths in my lifetime. When I was 25, my first child died after heart surgery. Her name was Keri, and after she died, I wrote poems I called “Mourning Lullabies” and put them away in a drawer. Almost fifty years later, when my husband died, I began writing again. Writing has helped me grieve.
Over time, friends and colleagues persuaded me to turn the poems into a book, and Words for the Unbearable was born. The poems are tragic and sorrowful and true. They cover the realities of grief. When the numbness leaves, these are the feelings left to carry.
Besides writing poems, I’ve found other coping strategies useful. Throughout the book, I offer them to you in the hope that some may help you too.
My poems are my journey of grieving. Some may open up feelings and thoughts that help you on your way to remaking your life. I hope they help you see that you are not alone and that you have everything you need to make this journey.
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At a time when so many of us find ourselves alone and isolated, these poems are a steady companion on the path of grief and loss. Enid Sanders has indeed found Words for the Unbearable that comfort and hearten its readers.
Michaela Haas, PhD, author, Bouncing Forward: Transforming Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs
It is rare that an author can capture both the emotional and intellectual experience of grief, but Dr. Sanders has succeeded. Having lived through the loss of her young daughter and, later, her beloved husband, she has a personal experience of mourning that gives life to Words for the Unbearable. The experience of grief and loss is vast and deep, creating a wound in the heart and soul of one’s life. Most of us ﬁnd it impossible to express that experience, but Dr. Sanders uses her work as a psychologist—and a poet—to help the reader identify, name, and deal with the profound and universal aspects of grief. Her unique point of view is expressed skillfully and gently in a work of compassion and understanding that comes from the soul of someone who has loved deeply.
Daniel Kostalnick, MD, psychiatrist
I am wiping tears so that I can write. What a truly amazing gift this is. I feel as though I’ve been seen and heard and understood. Each poem is a picture memory, a reminder, a suggestion, a loving gesture, words that attest to the author’s love. I thought only I loved so deeply and hurt so profoundly, but she’s captured and clariﬁed grief so well, it was comforting to read her words, even though many hurt like hell…Enid Sanders has done a great service; her words evoke strong feelings and encourage reﬂection, while providing the strange comfort that comes from being understood.
Eliana Gil, PhD, author, The Healing Power of Play: Working with Abused Childrenand, senior partner, Gil Institute for Trauma Recovery and Education